October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month
Domestic violence is not limited to partners and spouses. The statistics are staggering and horrific and include online dating abuse and relationship violence. According to the Domestic Violence Resource Center:
- 85% of the victims of relationship violence are women.
- 1 in 4 women will be a victim of domestic violence at some point in her life.
- 30% of Americans know a woman who has been physically abused by a boyfriend or spouse in the past 12 months.
- Most women are abused by a current or former boyfriend, partner or spouse.
- 3 out of 4 female rape victims were sexually assaulted by a current or former date, boyfriend, partner or spouse.
- Date rape is responsible for 70% of the sexual assaults reported by college-age women.
- Nearly 75% of Americans have either been a victim of domestic violence or know someone who is a victim of relationship abuse.
- Men can also be victims of dating violence.
- Every day, 3 women and 1 man are murdered by their boyfriend, partner or spouse.
From your initial contact with someone you meet on an online dating site, you should be alert for signs of possible dating abuse. Recognizing the signs of dating abuse while you still enjoy the physical distance of online dating can help protect you from becoming a dating abuse victim when your relationship moves offline.
Be alert for these signs of abusive behavior:
- When something goes wrong in your date’s life, it’s always someone else’s fault. Rather than accept responsibility for his own actions, your date blames someone else.
- Everything is always your fault. Your date blames you whenever he loses control.
- Your date gets jealous any time you mention someone else or talk about doing something with someone else. He wants to monopolize your time and focus your life on his needs.
- Your date makes negative remarks about your friends and family in an attempt to isolate you from other people who are important in your life.