There are hundreds of great potential dates waiting for you when you join an online dating service; but, unfortunately, there are likely to be a few creeps lurking about online as well. No online dating site is perfect and most perform only the most cursory – if any — screening of their applicants. It is up to daters to protect themselves from online dating abuse and dating violence.
As we mentioned in our previous post, it’s up to online daters to protect themselves and be alert for signs of possible dating abuse. Noticing one of the warning signs of an abusive relationship before you take your relationship offline is the best way to keep yourself safe.
Be alert for these signs of abusive behavior:
- Your date texts and calls you constantly, demanding to know what you’re doing, who you are with and where you are.
- Find out about your date’s family background. Children raised in abusive homes are likely to become abusers themselves.
- When they become adults, children perpetuate the family dynamics they observed during their youth. Knowing how your date’s parents treated each other will provide a clue to his relationship expectations.
- Beware of a date who wants to take care of your every need. What may feel nice at first can become smothering and controlling. You’ll be a better partner and look for a better partner if you learn to take care of yourself.
- If your date is abusive, don’t believe his promises to change. It takes professional help and hard work to change abusive behavior.
- Always have a safety plan and know what to do if things go wrong when you go on a date.
In the world of online dating, you should never feel a need – or allow yourself to be persuaded — to settle for someone who has obvious flaws or whose behaviors sets your alarm bells ringing. There are plenty of men and women looking for love on the internet. All you have to do is have faith and keep looking.