They don’t call it “the art of conversation” without reason. Good conversation or the lack of it can make or break a date. That’s why we came up with our Conversation Rules for Online Daters.
The ability to keep the conversation flowing back and forth without awkward silences during a first phone conversation or first date with your new online crush is sure to win you rave reviews – and a second date. Even if you’re not a born conversationalist, it’s a very learnable skill. You just have to know the right questions to ask and those you should shy away from.
First, a few Conversation Rules for Online Daters:
- Don’t ask yes-or-no questions. Peppering your date with a barrage of questions that can be answered in one or two words will make your date feel like he’s being grilled and will tell you little about what he thinks and the kind of person he is. Asking questions that start a discussion allow both you and your date to express your views, likes, dislikes, hopes and fears; in the process revealing your personalities.
- Don’t do all the talking. Like a ping pong game, conversation should move back and forth between you and your date. You should spend as much time listening as you do talking.
- Don’t reveal too much too soon. Early dates are no time to dump your job, financial, divorce, child-raising or other problems on your date. Get to know each other before you start sharing the most intimate details of your lives.
- Don’t aim for the heart. Stay away from highly personal or potentially embarrassing questions. You’ll only put your date on the defensive and could scare him off. See if a relationship develops and establish some trust before you tackle tough personal issues.
What are come conversation rules you use?