Confidence is crazy, not to mention fickle. I mean, how do you really contain your confidence on a consistent level? It’s difficult. But confidence matters, not only in the business world, but also in the dating world. People can always tell how other people feel, it shows in the way you walk, talk, gesture and dress. When you’re confident, it shows and when you’re not, it shows.
But, life is a roller coaster ride, isn’t it? Depending upon what’s going on in your life, you can wake up feeling one way and go to bed feeling another way. So, it’s hard to always maintain the confidence you need in order to be successful.
One of the reasons people like online dating so much is because they don’t really need to go out on a limb in order to gather up dates and chat with other singles. It’s like an anonymous bar, instead of having to deal with all of the potential weirdos buying you drinks and instead of having to walk over to that sexy thing sitting alone at a table and risk rejection, you can post up a picture of yourself, write an intriguing profile and surf through thousands of singles, picking and choosing as you so desire.
But, online dating also has its pitfalls. When you get so used to emulating confidence online, whether real or fabricated, it can be incredibly nerve-racking when having to finally seal the proverbial deal, and by that I mean going on an actual date with someone you met through an online dating service.
Many people have these strange online personas and it makes them feel obligated to perpetuate these online personas in the offline world. This can lead to nervousness and, because of that, a lack of confidence.
So, how do you remain confident when it comes to the date you landed from your online dating service without feeling obligated to perpetuate a false online persona? After all, you’re no longer able to hide behind your computer screen – this is the real deal. Well, the first step is to not have a false online persona. That’s right. Quit it! Be real, be honest and be prepared.
So many people feel ashamed of themselves; they feel as though they should be a different person online. But, the best thing you can do is to embrace yourself – every part of yourself. Even when you don’t feel necessarily confident, be confident in the fact that you are just that way sometimes. That is the essence of confidence in every part of life.
When it comes to your online dating profile, you need to portray your internal essence to other people. That way you will attract the right kind of dates and not feel obligated to be someone else you’re not.
The first step in portraying your true personality in your online dating profile is to get a professional profile picture. Dress in a way that accentuates your personality, use colors that make you feel good and confident and show who you really are to the online dating world and know that when it comes down to that first date, the person you’ll be meeting will be able to except nothing less and nothing more than the person they saw on your online dating profile – you in all your naturally confident glory. Now THAT is a great first impression.