Study found that 90% of people fudge a few facts in their online dating profile.
It’s the stereotypical online dating horror. You’re attracted to the picture of a great-looking guy or gal. When no flags turn up in emails or phone conversations, you agree to meet. And that’s where the fantasy starts to crumble. Your date looks nothing like his or her dating profile photo. Obviously, your date used either a much younger photo or someone else’s photo for that gorgeous dating headshot that first tempted you to call. Not exactly an honest basis for building a relationship. Even if you were intrigued by your phone conversations, the initial dishonesty can be a deal-breaker. Even worse – and more dangerous — are the “charmers” who flatter and lie, pretending to be someone they’re not.
Weeding out the pretenders is one of the toughest challenges of online dating and one of the most important, particularly for women. Of course, in every dating situation there’s that scary-exciting feeling of facing the unknown that comes whenever you meet someone new; but online dating subtracts the body language clues that play such an important role in our evaluation of other people.
A 2007 University of Michigan study found that about 90% of people fudge a few facts in their online dating profiles, usually shaving a few pounds off their weight or adding an inch or two to their height. Most daters expect a bit of that when they use an online dating site. It’s not the majority of little white lies that bother people; it’s the big whoppers.
It’s human to want to present your best self when you write your online dating profile and choose a dating profile photo, and the temptation to fudge the facts a little – or a lot – is hard for many people to resist. But resist you should because, ultimately, you want to meet someone who is attracted to the real you.
Next time: Who lies about what on online dating sites?