If you are jumping back into the dating pool after the breakup of a long-term relationship or are newly divorced, you may not have any, or at least not much, experience with online dating. Today, all the dating action is online or via an app. When you start exploring online dating websites, you’ll find a mind-boggling number of online dating sites and dating apps to choose from. Many are broad-spectrum and attract daters of all types and ages. Other online dating sites target specific groups, such as suddenly single divorce survivors, college students, people over 60, Christians or other religious groups, specific ethnic or cultural groups and a plethora of others. There are even online dating sites that have an extremely narrow, very specific focus such as Trek Passions, a dating site for Star Trek fans. The point is, there’s an online dating site for every person; although you may have to try a few before you find a site the clicks.
If you’re new to online dating, it’s important to remember that the ball is always in your court. Despite their promises, online dating sites do little to support their members beyond the initial profile set up (and religiously collecting your monthly fees). To achieve successful results (i.e., a date with someone fabulous), you need to take command of your online dating experience.
Here are a few things the suddenly single need to know about dating.
- When you sign up for an online dating site or app — before you hand over your credit card info — read all of the fine print. Make sure you understand the financial agreement, especially billing practices, automatic membership extensions, add-on expenses and how to cancel your membership if you are dissatisfied.
- Invest some money in a professionally-written dating profile and dating headshot taken by a professional photographer. Taking the do-it-yourself approach by using the tools available on the dating site will severely limit your opportunity to connect with someone fabulous. When people scan online dating sites, your photo has to stand out from thousands of other photos and attract their attention. A professional photographer knows how to manipulate lighting, background and body position to make sure your dating headshot shows you at your best.
- There’s an art to writing an online dating profile that attracts attention. If words aren’t your thing, consider getting some professional help with your profile. A pro could give your profile the zing it needs to make sure your online dating profile gets noticed.