Dating Red Flags that Could Spell Trouble- It’s never a bad idea to trust your gut when you’re dating online. If little warning bells start to chime when you’re getting to know someone you met online, it’s smart to pay attention. You may not be consciously aware of the behavior that triggered your conscience to whisper “be careful,” but it pays to give uncomfortable feelings some thought. As they say, “better safe than sorry.”
Dating red flags (see our previous post) aren’t always big and obvious. They don’t always wave in your face shouting a warning. Red flags can often be found in off-the-cuff remarks, body language that doesn’t match his words or comments made when she doesn’t think you’re listening. Little lies and deceits that don’t seem to amount to much can be harbingers of pain and grief to come if you ignore them. The problem is that in the early stages of an online dating relationship we often ignore such red flags, chalking small faux pas up to nerves and giving our date the benefit of the doubt.
Sometimes little slips mean nothing, but it pays to remember that a person is most likely to reveal his or her true personality during those moments when they think no one is watching or listening. Keep an eye out for these online dating red flags that could spell trouble down the road:
- Beware of cheaters. If you discover that your date has a reputation for cheating, or you find out he’s married or in another relationship; steer clear. Cheaters rarely reform. You should also be leery of dates that have been cheated on more than once. Once might be bad luck, but serial cheating can be an indication of emotional problems you don’t want to deal with.
- Beware of clingy dates. At first, it can be an ego trip to have a date that wants to be with you 24/7; but you’ll soon feel smothered. A date that has no life of his or her own may have serious problems with jealousy, control or self-confidence.