Returning to dating after some time away or reevaluating your dating tactics after you turn thirty can seem overwhelming.
The internet has changed the dating game. Dating after your twenties is no longer about frequenting bars or night clubs looking to meet other people your age.
Now, you have to learn to navigate social media. You also have to learn new dating techniques that you would never have used in your twenties.
If you’re wondering how to navigate this transition, check out these dating tips for the over thirty crowd.
Know What You’re Looking For
While dating someone with a nice car, an exciting job, or the latest clothes may have seemed like a good idea when you were in your twenties, you are likely in a much different place in your life now. This means that you’ll be looking for different traits in a potential partner.
Maybe you are looking to settle down, and want to find someone who feels the same way. Maybe you enjoy traveling for long periods of time and need someone who is able to do the same.
Figuring out what you want will help you avoid a lot of wasted time and disappointing dates.
Don’t Be Afraid to Let Others Know What You’re Looking For
If you’re just now getting back in the dating game, you need to figure out what it is that you’re looking for right away. You don’t want to waste your time going on dates with people who don’t feel the same way you do or who are looking for very different things.
Once you’ve decided what it is you’re looking for, don’t be afraid to be open about it.
There will be plenty of people out there who want the same things, and you’ll find them much easier if you’re honest right from the start about your wants and needs.
Don’t Ditch All of the Dating Tips You Followed in Your 20’s
While there are plenty of things about your dating routine that’ll change once you’re past your twenties, don’t ditch everything you learned during that integral decade.
Even if you didn’t date around much during that time, you likely learned many things about yourself and what works when it comes to relationships, and many of these still apply after you turn thirty.
For instance, you probably learned a long time ago that you can’t force chemistry, that it’s much easier to be yourself than it is to put up a fake front and that impressing someone isn’t always about buying them expensive gifts or taking them on fancy dates.
It’s a good idea to keep these guidelines in mind no matter what age you are.
Let Go of Stereotypes About Age or Divorce
There are so many stereotypes out there that say that people need to date others who are close to their age, or that people who have been divorced are likely to get divorced again.
Neither is accurate.
Dating past your twenties means learning to open up your mind. Don’t be afraid to date someone who is several years younger or older than you. Don’t say no to a date with someone you find attractive or interesting simply because they are a divorcee.
Create Your Own Happiness
If you aren’t happy with yourself and where you are in your life, you’ll likely never be happy in a relationship either.
Learning to be happy with your own life before you start seeking a partner is essential.
If there are parts of your life that you aren’t happy with, set goals for yourself and make gradual changes.
Then, once you are dating again, remember to never compromise your own happiness for someone else’s sake.
Stop Insisting on Perfection
When you’re in your twenties, you probably had a list of things that your perfect date would do.
Now that you’re older, it’s time to let go of those restraints.
If you’re constantly looking for someone who is a perfect match to you in every way, you’ll never be truly satisfied. Instead, consider letting go of some of your requirements, and opening up your mind to people who think differently than you.
Learn to Navigate the Latest Social Media Trends
If you’re returning to dating after some time away, you may be wondering whether you can still get away with dating offline.
The answer is probably no.
The majority of people are now turning to the internet to find love, and if you don’t join in, you’ll be missing out.
To join the digital dating age, you’ll need to learn how to use the latest social media platforms if you haven’t already.
Facebook, Tinder and dating sites like Match.com are among the most popular websites for meeting and connecting with others and finding dates. Create profiles for each, and do some research to learn how to navigate their features, including messaging, posting, or commenting.
It’s also a good idea to do some research on the rules and proper etiquette associated with each site.
Put Your Best Foot Forward
When you’re creating profiles for these social media sites, you’ll want to make sure that the image you’re presenting is a good one.
Be honest in your descriptions, because lying is only going to lead to some awkward dates.
You’ll also want to make sure that the photos that you post on these profiles are good ones. Bathroom selfies are never a good idea; in fact, selfies of any kind are often unflattering and poor quality. Group shots can be confusing, as it won’t be easy for potential dates to figure out which person in the shot is you.
Instead, consider having professional photos taken, to ensure that you’re always putting your best foot forward.
If you’re new to online dating, you may not realize that it can carry some risks.
Never give away your home address to someone that you meet online. Always schedule a first date in a public place, and make sure that you meet your date there rather than allowing them to pick you up.
Learning some safe online dating tactics is essential no matter what age you are.
Never Give Up
Dating over thirty doesn’t have to be stressful. Just like dating at any age, it takes some work, but in the end, finding the right person for you is always worth it.
Follow these dating tips and stick with your search, and you’ll be happily dating in no time.