If you’re in the dating scene, you know first impressions are everything. Everyone’s been on a date in which the other person is rude, speaks loudly or too much, and doesn’t understand the give and take a first date should be in order for the two individuals to get to know each other. While first impressions may be simple for some, even they can learn more. Here are some tips on how you can make a great first impression on any first date.
Better get this out of the way first, because nobody likes rejection, yet it happens to us all. While rejection may come at the end of a first date, acknowledgement of this aspect of the dating culture is important, as is the way you deal with rejection when it occurs. When you suffer a true loss, it hurts, and you may need time, however, not landing a second date is not a tragedy, just another path.
If you respond poorly when the person you’ve gone on a date with doesn’t want another, it reaffirms their decision. If you’re gracious and regretful, yet respectful of their decision, it can make people second guess themselves and if you live in a small town you’ll probably run into them again, maybe become friends–and who knows what will happen then.
Talk, But not a Lot
Remember the give and take of the first date we talked about earlier? Well, think of your first conversation like the tides–there is a natural ebb and flow when you’re on a first date. Both of you have questions for the other, both of you have passions you (potentially) want to share with this person, but this does’t mean you should bombard him/her with your hopes and dreams, or your life story. Of course, if you touch on a topic you’re both passionate about so much the better.
Know What to Order
If you go out for a bite and drink, know what you like. Don’t defer your choice, or pick something you might not enjoy. If you try and send a drink or plate of food back you might come off as snobbish, while if you don’t seem to enjoy your food, it’s likely your date will see this as a sign you aren’t enjoying yourself. Because of this, don’t try something new unless you know you’ll love it. If you meet at a bar, go for a classic like Guinness or Merlot. If you meet at a trendy restaurant, look for main ingredients you know you like, such as a turkey sandwich or a fresh salad, even if it has some unknown items on the side or as garnish.
Is It Just Someone, or That Someone?
More and more people find matches over the Internet these days, but make sure when you go on a date with someone you’ve found online that you’re interested in them not just anyone. Read their dating profile and before you meet, think of questions you can ask that person. Your date will appreciate the fact that that you read, and are curious about his/her profile and interests. If you find yourself constantly asking questions and don’t answer any in return, your date may have just been bored and out for some conversation, not interested in you specifically.