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    The Desperate Dater- Part 2

    ….Continued from last week.  Here are more things to watch for and RUN if they happen to you:

    Your date starts sentences with “Well, actually…”

    Nobody likes a know-it-all or to be made to feel inferior. Almost anytime a sentence is started with “Well, actually”, the speaker is refuting what the other person in the conversation has said.  We all know excitable people who refuse to ever be proved wrong and will vehemently defend the correctness of their position to a point of fault. Many people are susceptible to this when discussing topics they are passionate about.  If someone falls into the category of needing to always assert how right they are – especially over pedantic issues – they are probably not going to change anytime soon. It’s a deal breaker and you need to move on.

    Your date consistently pays more attention to their phone than to you

    If your date spends more time staring at their phone than engaging with you, this is a big deal breaker. Some people fiddle with their phones out of nervousness but this type of behavior suggests they are not really present in your conversation and their mind is elsewhere. Compulsive texting during a date is also in poor form.  This deal breaker applies not just prospective romantic partners, but all type of relationships. We’ve probably all done it at one point or another but ignoring a person right in front of you for what’s on your phone is selfish and inconsiderate.  Some workaholics are particularly guilty of being hyper-connected to the point of excess. This type of anti-social deal breaking behavior also can extend into more extreme versions such as avoiding face-to-face human interaction for Internet usage.

    Do any of these deal breakers sound familiar?

    You do not have to put up with being treated this way. Tell the other party why you found their behavior to be inexcusable and end the date.  Don’t waste your time on dates with people who act in these ways, because like the saying goes: there are plenty of fish in the sea.  Have you experienced any of these deal-breaking behaviors on dates before? How did you react? Do you have other strict deal breakers for geek dating? As always, leave your comments below – we want to know what you think.

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Claire Bahn


Claire Bahn is the CEO and Co-Founder of Online Profile Pros (OPP). She founded OPP to help individuals build, maintain and protect their personal brand to help them get the jobs, promotions and dates they desire. She has 15 years experience in branding, public relations and event marketing at start-ups as well as large Fortune 500 companies like Rueters and SAP. Claire has been featured in Forbes, Entrepreneur magazines among others. Online Profile Pros helps executives, entrepreneurs & influencers strategize and create their best personal brand.