Do you need a play-by-play on how to make your first date a success? When it comes to online dating, you’re in the right place.
First impressions are everything. You only get one chance. With all that in mind, your first date can seem daunting – especially when you’ve met your date online.
Luckily, there are a few things you can do to ensure that you have the perfect first date with an online match.
We’ve got your answers, so let’s jump in!
The first step to successful online dating is a good profile
Your date will only have what you post online to go on or use as a gauge for how you’ll get along. You’ll save both of you a lot of trouble if you have an accurate online profile that’s a good representation of you.
Everybody sets expectations, so you’ll want to do your part in ensuring your date has a good idea of who you are. Your profile should have a photo of you that is not more than 6 months old. and the photo should be you and only you …no need to make your date wonder who’s going to show up after all. Your photo is your first impression so you’ll want it to be more of a portrait from about the mid chest to a little over your head. Try dressing in your photo as if you’re going on a first date, i.e. you’ll want to look well put together and feel good about what you’re wearing.
Your written profile should reflect what you like and what you want out of a relationship. Are you just looking for dates and someone to hang out with or are you looking for something more long term? You also want to think about writing about things that can give another person some in sites into your personality, what you like to do etc. you want to give them some “hooks” to engage with you in a meaningful way. You don’t have to get deep into politics, religion or money issues unless these are so important to you that they can be “deal breakers” then its fair to let the other people looking at your profile a heads up so that they don’t waste your time and theirs .
Choose to wear comfortable clothes
The keyword is comfortable, because not everything that makes you look good will be the most comfortable thing to wear. You don’t want to be so worried about your outfit, or longing to take off your shoes that you don’t have time to enjoy the date.
However, it’s still important that you look good – after all, it’s the first time you’ll be meeting them. Find the balance.
Choose location and venue carefully
Aside from the fact that you need to be safe when meeting someone from an online dating site for the first time, there is more to consider when choosing a location and venue.
If you agree to (or suggest) grabbing dinner, it’s going to mean that both of you will have to have enough to say that will sustain a conversation for at least an hour and a half. If you can forsee the awkwardness, don’t be afraid to opt for something lighter.
Here are a few first date options if you think you and your match might not have much to talk about:
- Grabbing a midweek lunch or coffee together
- Visiting an aquarium or a zoo
- Visting a museum or an art gallery
- A movie then drinks after
- A trip to a bar, inclusive of shooting darts and pool
The above options give you a lot to talk about, so there will hardly be a dull moment.
Be yourself, not the person you think they’ll like
The whole point of online dating is getting to know someone, in hopes that they’ll be “the one” for you in the future. Therefore, honesty and good communication are important from the get-go.
It actually takes the fun out of the date if you spend the majority of the time figuring out what the person wants and becoming that, instead of just being you. Here are a few tips:
- Ask simple questions, like “How are you doing?” or “How was your weekend?” Questions are always good and will help break the ice.
- Get them to share what they’re good at, and what genuinely makes them happy.
- Talk about yourself honestly, including what your goals and expectations are.
- Don’t be afraid to talk about topics that people might shy away from.
Good communication will sustain your date. But, what if it isn’t going according to plan?
Your mood matters
Even if you had to flip off a driver who cut you off in traffic on the way to your date, it doesn’t give you the right to be an “Angry Angela.” No matter what’s going on in your life at that very moment, you owe it to the person you’re dating to put a positive spin on your mood.
Your mood will determine a lot, since people often reciprocate the emotions they receive from others.
It’s a different story, though, when your date is the one who brings the bad vibes.
Remember that you’re allowed to end a bad date
Another key to enjoying your first date is to remember that you don’t have to see it through to the end if it’s going badly. Always have a getaway plan, on the off chance that your first date sucks.
If you can tell that the date is going to be a horrible one, leave. Just be honest about it. It’s fair to tell someone that you just don’t think there is a good match and that you wish them the best. There is nothing wrong with that at all. You don’t need to be overly polite and feel you need to keep things rolling when you know in your heart that its not a good fit. Hence the reason that location is so important. you do not want to be in the middle of along dinner when you decide that things are not working out.
However, if you decide to stay, when the check comes don’t freeze up.
You can offer to split the check
We aren’t living in the olden days anymore. Even if you just use your date’s willingness to pay as a gauge for how they handle responsibility, you can still make the offer to split the price of whatever you chose to do that day.
For men, a woman who offers to pay even when they aren’t going to let her is a plus. So instead of pretending to reach into your purse, just ask “Can I help?”
If you guys hit it off, make arrangements to meet up again
If you enjoyed your first date (or at least see some potential), don’t be afraid to make arrangements to go out again. Be sure to follow up interest, either with a text message or a phone call the following day about how much you enjoyed the date. There is no need to wait for days ( the 3 day rule is so lame) to make arrangements to get together again. Besides its a good gauge to find teh other persons interest. if they keep putting you off then you know it will not work out and you can move one. Better that than wait for days for no reason whatsoever.
Your date may feel the same way, but just need some encouragement that the feeling is reciprocated. You have nothing to lose by being honest about your feelings.
And conversely, if you didn’t like the date nip it in the bud before your date gets the wrong idea and attempts to arrange another.
The best first dates start with an awesome online profile
Once your online profile is tailored to be a good representation of you, you’ll land better first dates with people who are actually interested in you.
A lot goes into making an awesome profile, but the most important part is your picture. Without a professional picture for your online dating profile, your chances of attracting the right person are slim.
Do you need to revamp your online dating profile with professionally taken photos?